Handwritten question: In a relationship is it OK for your boyfriend to swear at you constantly and try to have sex with you?
A real question from a young person, submitted anonymously.

In a relationship is it OK for your boyfriend to swear at you constantly and try to have sex with you?

Relationships

No. That's not ok.

Being sworn at constantly is not normal in a relationship. It's verbal abuse. And being pressured into sex is not ok either. Sex should be something you both want, not something you're being pushed into.

Sometimes when this stuff happens gradually, it can be hard to see how bad it's got. You might make excuses for them, or think it's just how relationships are. It's not. You deserve to be with someone who treats you well and respects what you're comfortable with.

If this is happening to you, talk to someone you trust. You don't have to deal with this on your own.

No, that is not ok.

Being sworn at all the time is not normal in a relationship. It is verbal abuse. Being pressured into sex is also not ok. Sex should be something you both want, not something you are pushed into.

Sometimes when this stuff happens slowly, it can be hard to see how bad it has got. You might make excuses for them or think this is just how relationships are. It is not.

You deserve to be with someone who treats you well. If this is happening to you, talk to someone you trust.

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