Is it true that the bigger the better?
No. The idea that bigger is better when it comes to size is one of the most common myths about sex.
Most women and people with don't from alone. The , which is the most sensitive part, is on the outside of the body. The most sensitive area inside the is actually the first few centimetres near the entrance. You don't need a big penis to reach it.
The "bigger is better" idea mostly comes from porn, jokes, and the way people talk. It puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on boys and men to worry about something that matters far less than they think.
What actually makes a difference during sex is communication, paying attention to what the other person enjoys, and not rushing. None of that has anything to do with size.
No, bigger is not better. That is one of the most common myths about sex.
Most women do not from a going in and out. The , which is the most sensitive part, is on the outside of the body. The most sensitive part inside the is near the opening. You do not need a big penis to reach it.
The idea that bigger is better mostly comes from porn and jokes. It puts unnecessary pressure on boys and men.
What actually matters during sex is communication, paying attention to what the other person enjoys, and not rushing. None of that has anything to do with size.
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