How long does sex averagely last?
On average, penetrative sex lasts about 5 to 7 minutes. That's from to .
That's probably shorter than you expected. Most people's idea of how long sex "should" last comes from porn or films, where it goes on much longer. In reality, it doesn't.
Sex doesn't have to mean just penetration either. If you include everything else, kissing, , touching, the whole experience usually lasts longer. But the penetrative part itself is usually pretty brief.
There's no "right" amount of time. Sometimes it's quick, sometimes it's longer.
On average, the penetrative part of sex lasts about 5 to 7 minutes.
That is probably shorter than you expected. Most people's idea of how long sex should last comes from porn, where it goes on much longer. In real life, it does not.
Sex is not just though. If you include kissing, , and everything else, the whole experience usually lasts longer.
There is no right amount of time. Sometimes it is quick, sometimes it is longer. Both are normal.
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