What does anal feel like?
It feels different for everyone, and it depends a lot on how you do it.
For the person receiving, it can feel like a fullness or pressure. The has a lot of nerve endings, so sensations tend to be intense. If you're relaxed and using plenty of lube, some people find it pleasurable. If you're tense, rushing, or not using enough lube, it's more likely to be uncomfortable or painful.
For the person penetrating, it generally feels quite tight which some people find pleasurable.
The biggest factor in whether it feels good or not is preparation. The anus doesn't produce its own lubrication, so lube is essential. Going slowly matters too, especially the first time. The muscles around the anus need time to relax, and pushing past that too quickly is what makes it hurt.
Some people enjoy , some try it and decide it's not for them, and some aren't interested in trying it at all. All of those are normal.
What feels like depends a lot on how you do it.
For the person receiving, it can feel like a fullness or pressure. The area has a lot of nerve endings, so the feelings are strong. If you are relaxed and use plenty of lube, some people find it feels good. If you are tense or rush, it is more likely to hurt.
For the person putting their in, it generally feels tight, which might also feel good.
The most important things are using lube and going slowly. The bum does not get wet on its own, so lube is a must. If it hurts, stop.
Some people like it, some do not. Both are normal.
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