When they make noises is that because it hurts?
Usually no. The noises people make during sex are mostly because something feels good, not because it hurts.
When something feels physically pleasurable, your body sometimes responds with sound. It's similar to the way you might sigh when you relax or groan when you stretch. Most of the time, it's involuntary and just happens without people thinking about it.
Noises during sex can also be a way of communicating. Moaning or making sounds lets the other person know that what they're doing feels good, without needing to stop and say it in words.
If someone is making noises because something actually hurts, that usually sounds and feels very different. Pain during sex is not normal and it's not something anyone should just put up with. If something hurts, you should be able to say so and stop.
Usually no. The noises people make during sex are mostly because something feels good, not because it hurts.
When something feels nice, your body sometimes makes sounds without you thinking about it. It is a bit like sighing when you relax.
Noises during sex can also be a way of letting the other person know that what they are doing feels good.
If someone is making noises because something actually hurts, that sounds and feels very different. Pain during sex is not normal. If something hurts, you should be able to say so and stop.
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