Handwritten question: How do lesbians have sex?
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How do lesbians have sex?

Sex

sex can include lots of different things. There's no single way to do it, just like there's no single way for anyone to have sex.

It might include kissing, touching, , using fingers, , or using . What two people do together depends on what they both enjoy.

A lot of people assume sex has to involve a to "count," but that's not true. Sex is about physical intimacy between people, however that looks.

can still be passed between women, so protection (like ) and regular testing are worth thinking about.

sex can include lots of different things. There is no single way to do it.

It might include kissing, touching, , using fingers, , or using . What two people do together depends on what they both enjoy.

Some people think sex only counts if a is involved. That is not true. Sex is about physical closeness between people, however that looks.

can still be passed between women. Using and getting tested regularly are worth thinking about.

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