What is sex?
Sex is physical intimacy between people. Most people think of it as -in- intercourse, but it also includes , , and other kinds of physical contact.
What counts as "sex" depends on who you ask. There's no single definition that everyone agrees on, and that's fine.
Whatever type of sex it is, it requires . Both people need to want to be doing it, every time.
Sex can be part of a relationship, but it doesn't have to be. People have sex for lots of reasons: because they're attracted to someone, because it feels good, because they want to feel close to someone, or because they want to have children. All of those reasons are valid.
Sex is physical closeness between people. Most people think of it as a going into a . But it also includes , , and other types of physical contact.
What counts as sex depends on who you ask. There is no single definition that everyone agrees on.
Whatever type of sex it is, both people need to want to be doing it. That is called .
People have sex for different reasons. Because they fancy someone. Because it feels good. Because they want to feel close to someone. Because they want to have a baby. All of those reasons are fine.
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