Does sex hurt?

Sex shouldn't hurt. If it does, that's usually a sign that something needs to change, not something you should push through.

The first time can be uncomfortable for some people, but that's usually because of nervousness, not enough arousal, or not enough lubrication. When you're nervous, your muscles tense up, which makes penetration harder. When you're properly aroused and relaxed, sex is much more comfortable.

Using lube helps, especially the first few times. There's nothing wrong with using it.

For most people, once they're past the first time and more familiar with their own body and their partner, sex doesn't hurt. If it does hurt regularly, there are common, treatable reasons for it and it's worth talking to a GP or sexual health clinic.

If something hurts during sex, you can always slow down, change what you're doing, or stop. You should always feel able to stop.

Sex shouldn't hurt. If it does, it usually means something needs to change.

The first time can feel uncomfortable. This is often because of feeling nervous, which makes the muscles tense up. Not being turned on enough or not using enough lube can also make it hurt.

Using lube helps a lot. There is nothing wrong with using it.

Once you are more relaxed and know what you like, sex gets more comfortable. If it keeps hurting, a doctor or sexual health clinic can help. There are common reasons for it and they can be treated.

You can always slow down, change what you are doing, or stop. If something hurts, that is your body telling you something.